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Habits that made me get my life together in my 20s

by Tim Dessaint

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Published 20 May 2023

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@TylervanburenIlast year 1. Abstaining from porn and masturbate
2. Clear goal setting
3. Massive action taking
4. Working out
5. Not waking up at 5 AM
6. Delay gratification
7. Extreme accountability ... 1931
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@donteeuwsen9301last year Brilliant video! I am 69 and in better shape than I was in my 50's. I know you are focussed on 25-30 year olds but your truth works for old guys like me too. While I have my own personal style, I enjoy watching you take care of yourself. You are an inspiration! Thank you! ... 1090
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@stevengo7576last year It's really comforting and inspiring to hear these lessons from someone you look up to. I was a subscriber ever since you published those videos on white shirts, and I'm glad to see the success you have now. Thanks for the video Tim! ... 57
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@francisgabriel15last year I know tim won't see this, but I just wanted to say this video is just amazing. I am literally in a period of my life where sometimes I feel like i'm where i'm supposed to be then suddenly I fall into a pit. People like Tim are those deserving of being called an "influencer". Thank you for motivating me Tim. All the best for you. ... 479
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@renpengxing5614last year This has to be one of the most important videos I’ve ever watched. It deserves to be watched over and over when I am feeling demotivated and lost. Thank you so much! 12
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@caltelevisionlast year I'm 21 right now and I feel like I consistently do most of what you talked about in this video. I'm still kind of in an in between stage in my life right now as I'm going to school and working towards finding a career to have after I graduate, but for the most part, I feel successful. Thank you Tim, for giving me reassurance that doing the right thing for myself does in fact pay off. I know that my hard work won't go to nothing ... 327
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@oliverleuchtenberger9 months ago Hey Tim, thank you so much for this video! I am in a transforming stage of my life right now. I luckily crossed the line from doing what others want to doing what I want.
Your honesty and openess are cheering me up that it was okay to have been going some detours.
I wish everyone to find themself, their purpose and the courage to live their truth.
Sending a lot of love from Germany ♥ ... 5
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@paimonthetravelbuddy690last year Just recently finished my finals this semester and now heading towards summer break. Will do my best to stick and follow the advices you've provided. I'm 20 years old now and this video is excellent for guiding me in life as I kind of have a hard time surviving college especially when I don't have a clear focused goal on my mind. ... 10
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@Mikeystaxxlast year I love these types of videos Tim. More of these please!!! The vibe these videos give off is really relaxing 134
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@thedude449111 months ago Thanks you so much man for these advices, i can tell it was a genuine and from then heart talk. Im a 24yo guy who has suffered a lot from depression, ocd, anxiety and other stuff, and right now im at the point where im taking my life into my own hands so your vid couldnt be any more helpful. Stay healthy, happy and strong. ... 1
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@metanoia6033last year man, Tim! Thank you for sharing these! Totally agree on all points! Took me 30 years and a great loss before I started changing my life and became more aware, intentional, and accountable. I guess what I need to work on right now is point number 3, Massive action taking. I feel that I'm still in the safe zone and not pushing myself to failure because of fear of burnout, but there will always be a way. I just need to figure it out ... 5
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@HendrikSince1908last year I never commented on your videos before, but point number 7 with the extreme accountability is one of my main tricks to get my focus back. Nobody ever said the same or agreed with me on that, so glad somebody thinks the same. Maybe great minds think alike.
It got me from getting rejected from my dream company with 19 to getting an internship there that's beyond everything I could imagine there 4 years later, absolut murderous trick. Keep up the good work. ... 76
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@nickd645111 months ago I was always really bad with #7, I always hated how I looked, my mindset etc and I realized that I was the only person who got me to that spot. Freeing myself from that mentality made me so much better and brought my life to a positive, outward focus instead of a narrow inward view. It was really tough, for me it was totally the hardest for me on this list but it has done wonders. I love these videos! ... 5
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@CookiezSamalast year Holy shit, never thought this channel would drop a self-improvement bomb as hard as this! Awesome video, I have been implementing some of these myself in the past year, and my self esteem, living standards and general happiness with my life has shot through the roof. ... 43
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@willhayes97896 months ago Thank you for being so genuine. Love the extreme accountability mindset 💪🏼 1
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@joelkirkpatrick5688last year I love this video. He speaks about things that most of us can relate to or are sttruglling with. He's real and not fake about the subjects he talks about. I'm 22 and I've had my ups and downs since turning 18. I was doing engineering at 18 and a paralegal program, but I kept having so many issues with my PC and money. I didn't get a job until I was 20 and I couldn't drive until I was 20. I come from a poor famliy and it's been hard these past years. I'm currently working on my paralegal degree and then going back to engineering, finally. When I was a teen got trapped in some of these things that he has talked about and I'm still working on some of them, but I've learned a lot and have grown up. I think most of us who watched this video can relate to it and I hope that everyone has grown or is growing to become a better version of themselves. From what I've learned so far is that you need goals and you need to be commited to them. Porn is nothing but a bottomless pit that will steal your life and happiness away if you don't get some help. Honestly, it's very hard to get away from it but I think that one of the main reasons a lot of people get trapped in it is beacuse it they're bored or thye're not doing anyting. Get out and excersise and learn something new, even if you have a degree already. Also, don't waste your time and energy on fake people and people who just want to use you. Also, stay away from social media as that is another trap and is just a waste of your time. In the end, set goals, keep 1 or 2 close friends (real friends), stay away from social media, and if you're addiceted to porn, get some help. I know it's embarrasing to talk about but it will feel amazing once you get away from it and see how much time you have and energy. ... 50
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@lou_joe5185last year Thanks man, i like how you included the mindset in the end bc without a clear mindest, the habits you make won't fulfill you 2
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@Oliwolf78last year This is a fantastic video. I am 21, and have already noticed myself slowly learning a few of these tips and applying my experience to them. But there are definitely some on here that I have not been acting on yet, and need to improve on, especially delaying gratification and massive action taking. Thanks Tim. ... 5
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@bubblellama7238last year This was a fantastic video, well thought out and planned, good focus and flow between habits. Honestly it was also very relatable, and i was proud that i already follow some of these habits 3
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@Drawsler11 months ago Super interesting video. I'm 26 and have been working full time for almost two years after finishing university. All those thoughts and topics in this video are what I am currently seeing as they are drastically changing in my life. Love that you shared your experience. ... 2
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@imdabanana960011 months ago Your general self improvement vids are some of my favorite on the channel 👌always hyped when you upload something like this
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@timondaffarn5 months ago You are the most real, down to earth, realistic YouTuber I have watched who actually gives relatable personal scenarios and does not act like they just above everyone else but you actually share how you improved personally and then simply share that with viewers. 90% of all these self help gurus on YouTube portray themselves to be the exception, like their lives are now perfect yet that isn’t the case for sure ... 2
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@gilangignasraharjo613811 months ago I just love how Tim's content is always honest and in touch with reality 2
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@AbigailSmithone week ago I love loveddd this video! I've watched so many "habits" videos, but really appreciated hearing your perspective. I can especially relate to the sleeping one as a night-owl who's also tried to be an early riser! Thanks for your transparency, Tim :) ...
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@Equinoxteam117 months ago Hey Tim, I turned 26 this year and just opened my first F&B venture. I felt like I was drowning both operationally & financially, given that i was hit with many unfavorable situations. Not understanding the complexity of the business as my first venture. Your video resonated alot with me. ‘If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.’ Thank you for your words of wisdom 🙏🏻 ... 1
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@Marcus_0094 months ago Great delivery
Calm, non hype.
Really enjoy that you talk about these important lessons while still being chill, it’s like hanging with a friend great vibe
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@babbit_janewaylast year Great video. Points 4 and 5 were the best for me. I think there’s too much pressure for people to get up at 5am because we’re being made to feel we’re not getting “a head start on the day” and carpe diem and all that. It was great to hear you say that there is no difference to the amount of hours you sleep - it’s just choosing them at different times to suit you. I’m not a morning person whatsoever and struggle to get out of bed before 9, but wide awake in the evenings. Thanks for this Tim, was great validation. ... 2
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@Thisath100last year This is great, Tim! Honestly happy that I can see I try to follow a lot of these to some level, but it's very gratifying to hear you say it; 1. I'm on the right path, and 2. it motivates me to try harder on them too. PS: Love to see you getting big sponsorships from tech brands! ... 15
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@ayopierrex4 months ago Tim Dessiant
Thank you for sharing your knowledge, wisdom and life lessons with the YouTube community. I wholeheartedly appreciated this video as I am currently a full time student in college struggling trying to figure out what’s for me and what’s not for me. I’m 27yrs old and even at my age I feel like I’m so far behind but after watching this I realized if I want to become the man I envisioned myself to be I have to put down unnecessary habits, look away from the things causing me unnecessary stress and thrive for the future I want.
Respectfully
Pierre ... 1
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@user-wt5qc3vf9c3 months ago This is brilliant! And it comes at a perfect timing for me. I'm 28 years old and I think I'm having that glass-breaking moment right now, when I'm evaluating many aspects of my life and, as you wisely said, taking accountability for what I can change and control. Thanks, Tim! ...
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@kurtispeak9 months ago Damn I really needed to hear all of this. Thank you Tim! I've been working towards building healthy habits recently as I've now graduated from College, but this motivated me even more to strive towards a career I actually want to do instead of what I thought I was meant to do. ... 4
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@justinlouisjones11 months ago I don't really comment on videos ever, but I feel like this was made for me. Tim, I've been following your videos for a while now, and I am the younger brother you're talking about. I'm 22 years old, just graduated from college, and just moved to a new town for a new job. I've been trying to settle in and get comfortable, but I just keep seeing old patterns come up. I'm ready to take this new season of life and get the most out of it I possibly can, and these 7 steps are exactly what I needed. while not exactly nothing I haven't heard before, there's nothing like the algorithm recommending this for me in this moment. there are no coincidences in life, and this is the push I needed to really get my crap together and live life by design. you probably won't see this, but thank you. I thank God that you were passionate enough to make this. I really appreciate it. Even in your vulnerability to talk about porn (and it being the first point) was a sign that I don't need it, and there is so much more out of life than temporary fixes. I am ready to try something different. ...
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@ivanfaigenbom5300last month I didn't thought that this video will be so insightful and personal. Great one! The first habit took me by surprise and kept me engaged bc of your openness and honesty. Thanks!
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@animalgirl96004 months ago Thank you for posting this video, it gave some clarity for my own life and life choices. And I'm turning 20 next month, and needed to the knowledge you have talked about. I hope you have a awesome day and keep up the good work <3 ...
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@IsaiahSalvagno5 months ago Thank you. Im 20 and I’ve been feeling depressed and confused. I feel behind in life. But it’s time to stop the bullshit. You really helped me out rn. 1
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@slippy3715last year As someone in my mid-twenties I’ve been trying to stick with some big healthy changes, similar to this video. This definitely renewed my motivation to keep up these habits. Keep up the great work tim it’s been great following you over the years ... 9
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@caiotorres6156last year Great video, man. I 100% with all the points mentioned in the video. I’m on the path to get them all right at 21 yo and of course there’s still a lot to get to this point, but I feel that, since I started to chase this, my life has gotten infinitely better, more fulfilling, I feel more like a man and more like an adult.
to be able to grind hard, i believe that the visualization of your future self thinking about your past decisions is definitely one of the most important steps.
loved this video, keep it up ...
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@BinhPham-sm6tvlast year You are quickly changing my life bro. From fashion and style to health and bad habits. 3
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@houzer_yt76986 months ago I'm 27 and I'm happy I came across your video man. I'll give an update this same time next year 1
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@TheRockyge10 months ago Bravo Tim!
Really enjoyed this video.
I am already working on these habits since Covid time and it’s not easy, but too important 💪
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@james.ninobla8 months ago Thank you so much for this Tim! Just so timely.
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@pokelover025 months ago Here to remind all the disabled folks here that it’s okay to chill out. You are not lazy. Your personal version of success is just as valid as this guy’s. The goal for us is to find a sustainable way to continue surviving and not hit burnout. Sending love to you ❤ ... 4
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@OBLIVIIONeditslast year I think the last point of extreme accountability can also lead you to an unhealthy point in life where you are feeling overstressed and depressed. I think looking at your own part in a problem is always good, but if something is really not your fault then you also should not take that responsibility. Life is not that black and white. It may take more mental effort but in the end i think it is much more realistic and mentally healthy to take the time out of your day to reflect on things that bother you and try to recognize what is on you and what is not rather than going to extremes and externalizing or internalizing everything. ... 15
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@ayazquraishi540311 months ago Thanks for sharing. This was really helpful; especially the bonus point. I genuinely feel motivated.
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@najibasmalast year This is great man, some very valid points from start to finish. Accountability mindset is deffo key👌🏻
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@amielpazcoguin6532last year Absolutely needed this big time, thanks tim!
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@kaypark59079 months ago I have never commented on a youtube video but this video definitely deserves a comment. I'm 34 years old, married for 7 years with two kids and now have hit a very difficult point in my life. This video definitely covered some important points which was surprisingly very personal to me, and gave me a small push somewhere inside.. Thanks Tim. All the best. ... 14
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@joexcam9 months ago Definitely needed this! Thank you for making this!!
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@ayaken5972last year I'm 27 right now. I've been looking for a video that would give me the motivation I needed, and I'll take this as a sign. I've already watched the video, but I'll save this to remind myself that with these habits, I have the power to change the course of my life. Thank you, Tim. ... 73
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@alan94811 months ago thank you so much, everything you mentioned I'm going through it right now, and I'm trying to change before it's too late.
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@FarmTraveler6 months ago Bro this is great. Thanks for being real and covering all this! In the same boat, but lol 32 now, and wan't to get back on track!
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@vangogh7049last year Damn you really made a great turn in life. I love these videos these helped me a lot lately since I struggle with structuring my future and present after my 20th birthday and finishing my education
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@rikiparata104010 months ago Great video thanks Tim! Look forward to seeing more ☺️
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@midascallinglast year Great video Tim, you’ve cracked your own code, the one i struggle with when it comes to getting my head down for late nights sometimes is delaying gratification, i will now think of my rocking chair self. One maybe interesting thing for you to think about; i used to hate mornings and had a similar mindset to you about it, 3 months ago i started getting 6am ice baths every single day and my morning grogginess vanishes and a whole new side to me i wasn’t aware of flourishes. Keep it up, much appreciation. ...
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@chris587124last year Just turned 24 graduated from college a year ago but realized I don’t even know what to do after. This video really was helpful gotta start really planning and figure out my passions and being organized. 1
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@patrickelfert152011 months ago Great video, what i found hard is balancing working hard and trying to achieve your goals with actually living your life.
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@DefyingMotion216 months ago This is one of the best motivational videos I've seen: promotes how each individual has their own personality and necessities instead of a cookie cutter approach. The product ad was also actually enjoyable to watch as well 😅 ...
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@lourlopezsk11 months ago Great video! I felt so happy when I saw the clip of the world cup. Thank you, Tim. From Argentina 🇦🇷⭐⭐⭐
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@terreshap7 months ago Thanks for this Tim. I usually watch your style videos but I recently turned 25 & just had this instant realization that I need to start getting my life together & this was the perfect video for me to see. I’ll come back a year from now (God sparing) & let you know how much your video helped me 🫶🏿 ...
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@JayTownslast year Really love this video, man! I've always felt you have such great insights to share and so glad you decided to in this one :)
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@fazilmohamed2507last year This is one of the most genuine videos I have ever witnessed. CHEERS TIM!
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@jeffclark6552last year Tim! Dude way to be bold and be willing to speak the truth to us guys out here. You're a leader in a unique way through your content, and it's awesome to see that the type of motivation that drives you. I love the fact that you came right out of the gate with nofap. So sick, bro! 👊🏻 ...
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@levyoliveira91025 months ago bro you re a real person no cap THANKS A LOT, i needed this
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@recklessrebelxolast month Needed to hear this. I had a rough starting with everything but I hope one day I can be proud of myself and definitely a helpful video it made me aim for something and thought of ways to improve myself that I’m lacking at moment. ...
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@mna_2007.last year I am so thankful for this video, extremely because I am 16 and my own life is starting right now, hear this advice from the person, that is real and close to you and your interests is so cool, thank you very much 😌
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@hangobi894111 months ago Thank uuu😭😭, u make me so relieve because when i thought i will gonna change my life and then a toxic hustle culture opinion come to my mind, I was like ok maybe i will try to balance it, and the fact i never started to improve my life because i feel comfortable, and the moment i want go all out i am scared about this toxic hustle culture thing, I am so lost and dont know what to do, thanks to you that i know what should i do, big thanks✨ ...
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@chebbaelyeslast year Thanks for the video Tim. It's awesome and it's come in a time in my life where I need it <3 Love you man!
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@bosef11 months ago I really needed this. As a recently 20 year old man I have spent the past few months in a slump, unemployed and spending my time playing video games and ignoring myself. Since watching I started driving lessons, I got back into yoga and I’m off porn. Most influencers either make me feel worthless or encourage bad behaviour, thank you for this❤ ...
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@obamas.7963last year I love Tim making these videos , also porn and masturbation is something many people don’t know the bad things it can do to you and I’m glad Tim took the time to explain part of it and not only posting fashion videos! Much love Tim ! ... 2
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@melchisedekj4 months ago Glad you improved your life.
Proud of you for sharing your journey to help others.
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@vladimirberlizev21610 months ago Your presentation & delivery are impressive. Respect 🙏🏻 1
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@Rodrigoxdaniel7 months ago I was not expecting at all the #1 but Im glad you talked about it Tim 👏🏾
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@jorbes576last year bro, im from Brasil, and u have no idea how much this video helped me, thanks a lot man
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@vantus137 months ago I am 21 and stumbled upon this video, and this is really helpful! I already did some of the stuff you mentioned, so I feel like I am on a good track already. One thing I always put off is going to the gym. As an introvert, it is a very big overcoming for me to go to the gym. I am going to probably start exercising at home for now. I feel like doing something (even at home) is 1000 times better than doing nothing. ...
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@miketwomey815510 months ago Very good video. Had been skipping this one but I genuinely believe I will employ some of these habits for the better
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@BurakSaricam11 months ago I missed this content. It's great to see this kind of videos again :)
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@kingjulian1202last year Just to start this, I have not hit my twenties yet, I think I adopted some things you said quite naturally, but for me some of them act negatively. I set myself clear goals, but because I don't want to chase after big goals I only pursue small goals, the massive action taking is in turn countered by taking little action to achieve small goals. The extreme accountability is also hard-wired into my brain, I want to take responsibility and accountability for all my actions which in turn leads me to be very cautious and try not to take on any risk so it makes it harder to fail. I'm in a critical stage in my life right now, where I'm trying to figure out what I want to do in my future, it's now that I have to deliver good grades, find out what I'm passionate about and how to make my passion work for me. I'm really engaged in language learning since a few years (I mean English isn't my first language, I'm studying Japanese since about 2.5 years and I've also started learning Spanish since like half a year). Recently I've also come into contact with Buddhism, which greatly lead me to questioning my ethics and moral compass and in turn made me a more conscious person as a whole. Thank you for your advice, I love it when I can get genuine advice from someone that has more life-experience than I have. ... 2
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@jacobhooper161211 months ago Thanks for this man. More content my on self progression welcomed!
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@SoloVisionz7 months ago I found out that waking up early is better for what I wanna do but I really appreciate how you realized that it isn’t for you and still were productive with your time and it just shows that doing what works for you is what will help in the end ...
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@tony_mayback2511one week ago Am 25 now and i just feel overwhelmed sometimes i dont know why, thanks for this video.
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@j.p.nicholas465last year You really gave me a perspective I can understand. VERY good advise, thank you Tim.
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@maxpearce23last year Great video brother, continue the good work, I wish you nothing but the best
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@stefanilic460511 months ago Thank you for inspiring me to get off my ass and start working. I needed to hear this to get back in the race of life.
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@leandrovillalobosbravo25533 months ago I just have turned 25 and have been feeling lost my whole life. Thank you for this video, I think it really hit me. 1
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@bradlspencer10 months ago Coming in HARD with that first one sheesh. Amazing vid x
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@Crickethilllast year I would like to offer a different take, especially on „hustle“. And I do consider myself to be someone who very much has their life together, now at 30. I am exceptionally good at my profession and I did learn quite a lot over the last few years. And that is that hustle culture is a negative thing. Because it pushes you to go over your limits, to forget your own physical and mental health. Because it is near impossible to get everything done that you want to get done - work, chores, your relationship, sport, friends, relaxing, etc. Also, I learned that almost everything is possible in less time. More work often doesn‘t yield more results because your body is fatigued after a certain time - again, mentally and/or physically. So most people don‘t work more than 5 hours of an 8 hour work day productively. Just upping work time doesn‘t make a significant difference. Instead, listening to your body, knowing when you need rest or when you‘re exhausted, makes you more productive if you give your body what it needs. Hustle culture promotes going over these limits and doing unproductive work in the hopes that more work also means more money/success. But statistics show pretty clearly that just isn‘t the case. Like, if you don‘t take the time after an injury to heal properly, you might re-injure yourself or healing takes quite a bit longer. So taking the time most often is the more productive choice instead of „hustling“. Yes, there are certain times where a lot of work needs to be done in a short amount of time, but that should be for a very (very!) limited time only. Slow and steady progress is by far superior to short term, immediate progress. Also: consider „survivorship bias“. A lot of people promoting „hustle culture“ are the few who were lucky to get to the point where they are visibly successful, but there are a lot of people who did the exact same thing but were not as successful. So this is far from a real recipe for success, otherwise it would - as you said, Tim - be easy to reproduce, if you just had to work harder. And I for one have seen a lot of success in respecting that everybody needs time for themselves, that not hustling but leading a balanced and healthy life leads to much more productivity.
I do like the point of accountability though. That I think is really important, because you can only improve when you acknowledge your own shortcomings - and it is also the only thing you can work on. Most other things are out of your own control. This is btw something I learned from playing multiplayer video games in my teens. And also from my own past failures that forced me to reflect what I did wrong and what I would enjoy more than I was doing at the time. So I really want to emphasize accountability while strongly refuting „hustle“ as some useful habit. ... 5
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@lcf76626 months ago Great video tim, you have influenced my style a lot but this is probably the most important video you've made. So many people especially kids my age are becoming addicted to porn or adult content even when I try to convince them to stay away from it. ...
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@keegswilly6 months ago I'm 27 and will be implementing your goal strucutre. Thank you for the ideas and tips, your video has came at a time when I needed it most.
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@nintendofreak299610 months ago I just went through a beak up last month that showed me how immature I really am.
Over the course of a month this vide has really changed my life for the better.
I’m heading in a new positive direction in my life and it’s because of my new found discipline ...
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@harshveersingh2587last year needed this so bad, especially the last part!
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@antonioramos7063last year Agreed to all contacts and thank you so much Tim.👍🏻
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@growithsyeraphy11 months ago immediately subscribed to your channel! such a breath of fresh air <3
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@azmarxo7 months ago thank you for this great video. i took time to write down and make notes with all 7 of your points. watching this video is a great step in changing my life for the better :)
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@sniviobraganca98993 months ago This is hands down the best and most inspirational video i ever watched
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@janitorjesh7 months ago I’m gonna comment on this right now so I can come back to it in 6 months and see where I’m at. Extremely inspirational! Wanted to skip the gym as I laid here watching this and now I’m on my way to the gym.